Are you single ? Do you find it difficult to meet the right person? When you have trouble finding a love relationship, it’s too easy to get discouraged or buy the myths out there about dating and relationships.Dating Tips will change your Love Life.
Life as a single person offers many gifts, such as being free to pursue your own hobbies and interests, learning how to enjoy your own company, and cherishing quiet moments of calm. However, if you are ready to share your life with someone and want to build a lasting and beneficial relationship, life as a single person can also frustrate you.
We all get advice at some point in our lives. People like to give their two cents to others when it comes to something they consider to be an expert. They just want to help. But often they don’t!
Even if you have been burned repeatedly or have a poor track record when dating, these dating tips can help put you on the path to finding a long-lasting healthy and loving relationship.
1. If you can’t date without losing the ability to love, trust, care for and respect yourself, don’t date or be in a relationship until you can.
You will find that you have much better dating experiences when you like and love you.
2. Dating is a discovery phase.
It’s a getting to know you period where you can get a sense of how much you click as well as whether you have enough going on to forge a relationship. This period is for you to learn about the other party even if what you learn spells the end of your involvement.
3. Don’t make dating into a vocation.
Have fun! While I appreciate that you’ve got to get out there and meet people, it shouldn’t be done to the exclusion of having a life otherwise every date will carry more meaning and weight than is warranted. It will feel as if it’s a painful interview and it’ll become a numbers game.
4. Don’t date if you are not over your ex.
It may feel like the best thing to do is jump back into the saddle after a break up but if you haven’t given yourself time to get over it, you are likely to end up sabotaging your dates. It is also likely that the emotions that are still attached to your ex will create drama in itself. Never date until you have reduced your baggage to hand luggage. Oh and of course it’s not fair on the people you’re dating!
5. Online dating is an option for meeting people but not your only option.
Getting out there and meeting people like they used to do in ‘olden times’, is still the most effective way. If you are going to date online, you need the hide of a rhino, good detective skills, and a willingness and ability not to let your imagination run wild.
6. No ex on the first date.
In fact, you have no real reason to talk about your ex on the first few dates. The only reason is if there is something about your ex that is vitally important that they know. Example: They’re stalking you and anyone you date, you have a child together etc. You’re supposed to be getting to know each other and if you talk about your exes you may actually end up communicating that you’re still emotionally invested.
7. Don’t start acting like you’re in a relationship when you’re are just dating.
Slow your roll! You’re going too fast! If you do this, you will expect as if you’re in a relationship when you don’t actually know each other enough to do this. You will make the other person nervy if you go into girlfriend/boyfriend mode when you’ve not established whether you’re in a relationship or in fact don’t even know them. Don’t assume the position.
8. Don’t make exceptions to your normal boundaries.
It’s better to be yourself and know your limits. If you’re already making exceptions for someone you are dating, it is a sign of not so great things to come. As dating is a discovery phase where you should be aware of things that potentially signal a relationship not happening, turning a blind eye to what may be code amber and code red stuff is not in your interests.
9. Remember to act like you’re worthy and in the same league.
Do not put people on a pedestal because the only place for them to look at you is from above, which means you are beneath them.This creates a dangerous, imbalanced relationship that is difficult to recover from. Be careful of getting dazzled by someone and in awe of them as it may make you blind to the reality plus it puts undue pressure on them creating expectations that they cannot live up to. They’re just not that special.
10. Dating doesn’t require you to be blind, whether it’s to the reality of someone or to your own needs.
For you to have a sense of who they are, the relationship or the possibility of one, and whether it feels good for you, you need to be capable of engaging with them with your eyes and ears open. The dating shouldn’t be one-sided and if your needs can’t be met while you run around meeting theirs, it is a sign of a dangerous, imbalanced relationship.
11. Get rid of anyone who only communicates with you via text message.
12. Do not expect from people what you are not capable of being and doing yourself.
Anything that you’re expecting from dates are things that you yourself should possess. This will stop you from looking to others to fill voids.
13. Spend time and get to know each other.
What do they believe in? What are their plans and their goals? What’s important to them? Ask questions, listen and even more importantly, pay attention to see if they’re living in line with their values.
14. When you go on that first, second, or third date, just focus on experiencing the date.Be mindful.
There is no need to be putting your name with their surname, imagining them on holiday, trying to work out if you can marry them, and basically galloping too far into the future.
15. Don’t go to the movies on the first couple of dates.
It is important that you are both communicating and you can’t do this if you’re sitting in the dark watching a film. Whatever your choice of date, ensure that involves a high level of interaction. If you do go to the cinema, make sure you do something before or after.