Dating can be a difficult business. What should you wear? Where do you have to meet? How much do you have to say? Who has to pay? How soon after your date do you have to call? With so many questions, it’s hard to focus on really getting to know your date. Here you will find some of the best dating tips.
1. Pay attention
One of the biggest causes of dating and relationship issues is failing to pay attention to obvious code red behavior and issues in the early stages of dating which subsequently come back to bite you in the bum when you’re further along in the relationship.
2.If you’re interested, don’t pretend you’re not interested.
Not only is this childish game playing, but you will totally convey the wrong messages about yourself.You also need to be careful of playing games because some people will get off on the chase, build you up and then discard you. You will also struggle to decipher whether they are also playing games so it just basically puts you on the wrong footing.
3.Put your mobile/cell phone on silent or vibrate!
Don’t take calls or text throughout the date. Go to the bathroom. But obviously don’t spend most of the date sneakily taking calls, texting, tweeting or whatever. It’s really bad manners. Be in the present.
4.Listen don’t just talk on dates.
People think that you need to talk a lot for good communication but there needs to be a balance between talking and listening. If you’re doing most of the talking, something’s not right. And yes, sometimes this is down to nerves but slow down a little to get a sense of whether you’re overcompensating for the other party or whether you listen too much to your own talk and project this onto the other party. If you’re already thinking about what you’re going to say next, you’re not fully engaged and if you’re not aware of what you’re doing, you may make assumptions about your date based on how much you enjoyed talking as opposed to the actual date.
5.Talk positively about you when you’re on dates.
Do not sell yourself short. Don’t shoot down compliments or run you down. Just say thank you when complimented. Speak about you with love, care, trust, and respect. If you can’t see why someone should date or love you, how can they see it?”,
6. Always tell someone that you’re going on a date.
It’s good to be safe! If they seem weird, listen to your gut. Meet in an open, public place for the first few dates and keep your senses alert for anything that comes across as strange, intense, or stalkers.
7. Don’t discover a piece of information about their ex and then try to make yourself into them or start to feel insecure.
If their ex is so amazing, they’d still be there so all you’re doing is offloading you to try and play someone from the past. You’re taking information out of context and you’re not valuing the beauty and essence of who you are. Imitating someone that they’ve broken up with is a one-way track to pain and loss of self. You’re not a replacement; you’re you.
8.Judge people on the merits of their own actions.
Don’t tar everyone with the same brush because you’re afraid of trusting yourself. In fact, you’d better learn to trust yourself before you start dating otherwise you will either be too fearful and find any reason to find fault, or you will love and trust blindly, which is dangerous also.
9. Don’t be bitchy, aloof, confrontational, or aggressive.
You may think you come across as independent and self-assured but actually you’re coming across as bitchy, aloof, confrontational, or aggressive. They don’t exactly scream ‘date me’. Make sure that how you intend to come across is how you come across. Communication is only as good as the message that’s received on the other end. This goes back to point .
10. Learn to say ‘NO’.
Much of the drama that happens with dating arises from not being true to yourself and being agreeable. It comes from fear and guilt around your right to say and show no. No is how you communicate your limit and your line.